I feel like I’ve dealt with some utterly uncalled for behavior from people at work recently. Like them blowing up at me about something if I’m just asking a polite question, etc.
I just tell myself “maybe they’re having a bad day”.
But I think about myself. I have bad days too. I never let it get to the point where I’m exploding at someone. I extricate myself from the situation, maybe fume about it privately, but I don’t go on a rampage or yell at someone. In any rare case where I do end up letting a bit slip out I always apologize for it.
These people NEVER apologize to me for their outbursts. Why am I the only one walking on eggshells and trying to maintain professionalism, politeness, and kindess with people who seem to make no effort to regulate their own stress.
Someone having a bad day isn’t an excuse to be bad human being with zero consequences. But it seems these people can get away with it because of how much power they hold in the company.
I honestly don’t think I have it in me to as rude as some of these people so I’ll probably just swallow their rudeness until the next time it happens while continuing to try to be kind and polite.
Have others had similar experiences?
I feel this. I was wrangling 2 data engineers bickering like you wouldn’t believe in a meeting earlier today. With other people present. One of whom is a VP and was one of these cat’s boss. It was like two 10 year olds who each are certain they know best, but neither of them fully understands the other. It’s just unreal. I had to almost shout over them to get them to shut up and listen to me, which is far from my preferred meeting demeanor, but there was no other way.