Basically, I’m 25M and never had a real job. 2 days ago, my father just had a CVA and it’s at death’s door, having been the only income for our family his whole life. While he was a god awful parent to me, he did give us everything we needed, and he was a great dad to my sisters.
Now that he’s about to die, we not only lost our only provider, but he’s leaving us with a huge debt to pay (over 3M in local coin, around 3k USD) due to all the loans he took the last 2 years to buy fancy stuff for himself and my sisters, and being the older brother, it falls on me to bring the food to the table.
I honestly don’t know what to do at this point, I feel overwhelmed by all the sudden responsibilities, and running away isn’t an option, I can’t bring myself to leave my sisters and mother behind.
A stroke is very much survavable, but him surviving may be worse for everyone as now you’re taking care of an infirm person who can’t work and still has those debts. :(
Like others have said, get an estate planner.
We though the same the first day, but around 5hs ago, we were told that he has had micro-strokes for around a month now (we believed his sudden mood swings were due to his diabetes and high sugar), and that the big stroke produced a brain hemorrhage, which happened again yesterday.
He could survive, but neither us nor the doctors are so hopeful, since if his blood pressure increases again, he could very certainly simply die on the spot. Mom is already grieving and trying to make peace with it, but sisters are still hopeful.