That was also my experience, I grew my beard a couple of time, just to see how long it goes and also laziness. I never cared with specific beard products or trimming it and stuff. I washed it with the same head&shoulders I use for my hair. In my country is normal to greet with a kiss in the cheeks so it was a somewhat common occurrence that a woman would feel and comment how soft it was. But that was it, they are impressed by the softness not the looks of how long it was, this was only guys, guys were impressed by the size of the bears and all. That is not to say that woman necessarily prefer shaved face, in my experience mostly (in my country that is) prefer a trimmed beard. I guess it is more mature or mainly. My now wife certainly preferred me to just trim down the beard instead of shaving it.
That’s fair. And the fact that I was following rules 1&2 probably explains the rest, because wow you would not believe how blatantly people can hit on you without you noticing when you hate your appearance
But yeah, that tracks, I guess is the opposite end of confident people that will think that others are into them why would they not be? When we don’t think much of ourselves we more likely assume that a compliment or even someone hitting on you is just someone being nice, they “obviously” would not be into me.
That was also my experience, I grew my beard a couple of time, just to see how long it goes and also laziness. I never cared with specific beard products or trimming it and stuff. I washed it with the same head&shoulders I use for my hair. In my country is normal to greet with a kiss in the cheeks so it was a somewhat common occurrence that a woman would feel and comment how soft it was. But that was it, they are impressed by the softness not the looks of how long it was, this was only guys, guys were impressed by the size of the bears and all. That is not to say that woman necessarily prefer shaved face, in my experience mostly (in my country that is) prefer a trimmed beard. I guess it is more mature or mainly. My now wife certainly preferred me to just trim down the beard instead of shaving it.
That’s fair. And the fact that I was following rules 1&2 probably explains the rest, because wow you would not believe how blatantly people can hit on you without you noticing when you hate your appearance
What is the rules 1&2 ?
But yeah, that tracks, I guess is the opposite end of confident people that will think that others are into them why would they not be? When we don’t think much of ourselves we more likely assume that a compliment or even someone hitting on you is just someone being nice, they “obviously” would not be into me.
Rule 1: be attractive Rule 2: don’t be unattractive
And yeah, developing confidence did wonders