Broadly speaking, you probably agree with the large majority of the views commonly attributed to whichever group you identify with - what are the exceptions? Something that if you mention without a caveat immediately makes people jump to conclusions or even attack you?
maybe they mean they only argue and scream at themselves over their veganism?
I’ve dated a self-hating vegan before. She would like, get drunk, have a piece of cheese, and then go into a self loathing spiral.