Hey Anon, you did great!
In this situation, as in many in life, Judo rules apply: Go with the punch, don’t push against it.
This was a win, you just need to recognize it as that.- you proved yourself that you have lots of courage
- you were not a creep when talking to a stranger
- you dodged a bullet with that woman.
- you tried something new. (might not have worked out at the first try, but can’t really expect to be that lucky)
keep it up, don’t lose heart, you’ll find your match.
Great comment, cold approaching in any situation can be intimidating but at the end of the day the worst that can happen is they say “no”. And then you can go home and get high or drunk or whatever and not care. Each rejection hurts a little less each time.
I mean, better solution is to go hang with your friends and commiserate. Which, imo, is always something dating advice seems to avoid talking about. Dating is hard. Having a solid social support system to pick you back up again is crucial.
That’s when you go “Oh Okay, I can see why your single” and walk away like a boss
Worst she can do is say “no”
People who frequent bars are shitty people
Nah but for real if some random stranger at a bar overheard me saying I’m single and then came up to me and my friends like that I would be a little creeped out too.
I wouldn’t be mean about it, but I definitely wouldn’t say yes.
This is definitely one of those ‘creepy if ugly’ moments. If he was a handsome guy, it would be romantic and has almost definitely happened in a million Hallmark movies.
Handsome/Ugly is in the eye of the person, remember. Just because one person found you not attractive, doesn’t mean they all do.
Fuck Hallmark movies, Don’t make me vomit
Of course everyone is entitled to have their own opinion of what is beautiful. But there are some pretty obvious statistical convergences.
Listening in on conversations is creepy, no matter how good-looking a person is.
And that stuff happens in movies doesn’t mean it isn’t creepy in real-life.
It’s not so much creepy if ugly, so much as creepy if not confident.
And the way to become confident in something is to do it a bunch of times.
Lesson being, it’s okay if someone thinks you’re creepy. You’re just in the process of developing a new skill.
If he was handsome it would still be creepy
Dude, why are you upset? You dodged a delusional bullet right there. Her response to explained everything about why she is alone. The proper comeback would have been, “Well, if THAT’S your response to a perfectly reasonable offer, then I’m not desperate either.” Shuck it off, brother.
You won’t die alone, she will. Or better yet, she’ll marry the first dope that proposes, no matter how unsuitable they are, and have a miserable life.
You could meet someone tomorrow, and be in a fun relationship by the end of the year, but you have to keep trying. It’s a numbers game, keep taking your turns at bat, you’ll get lots of strikes, but you’ll get on base a few times, too.
I’m proud of you, brother. You took a HUGE swing with that attempt, and struck out, but at least you didn’t go down watching the ball speed past you. That’s far more than most guys would ever do. I guarantee that we were all reading your story, and pulling for you, and when you got shot down, so did we. If we’d been there, we’d all be buying you beers, and celebrating your courage, and you wouldn’t have been crying in the parking lot.
Get back in the game, nobody ever scored from the bench.
“Oh, sorry, you seemed so desperately moaning about being alone, I was feeling charitable. Have a GREAT life with that lol…”
I can’t imagine why no one would want her with that shining personality
Fake: Anon left the house
Gay: Anon was a girl this whole time
Thats why she cant find a man! Lesson here dont approach women that say “they cant find a man” there is a reason they cant find a man and you should believe her. What you did was courageous and this shouldn’t stop you from trying in the future.
Or she’s just unlucky. Or has some other understandable and solveable problem in her life. Lesson is, just approach anyone you find hot. If they reject you, that’s fine. If you find you don’t like them and reject them later, that’s fine too. Most people aren’t “bad”, and rejection isn’t bad either - it is simply the process by which people figure out who they are compatible with. It sure doesn’t feel good - but the one thing that is sure to stunt your progress in finding partners is avoiding things that are uncomfortable
Thats why she cant find a man!
I read about a guy on a website who just trolled bars for hours at a time, eavesdropping on every conversation between anyone he considered remotely attractive. At the slightest hint of desperation, he would run up to a table and announce “I am a single man! Please date me! I will feed you dinner and then we can be together!”
He is the most successful anon in history. Goes on dates every single day of his life. Little black book contains hundreds of phone numbers from women desperate for a second chance at him. But he doesn’t stop. One Date Only, that’s his policy. He’s just too much of a hot commodity to deprive the rest of the Femoid Race of his charms.
This is the real reason OP’s story is about a woman who is single.
Is he called Ataru Moroboshi by any chance? Xd
Lesson here: definitely take away life lessons from a greentext
Reminds me of the guy who dmed me that he wanted to touch my boobs in broken english. I made fun of him so hard that he started calling me “mean” and stopped texting me
What if I DM you in perfect English?
Many such cases.
In what ways did you make fun of him?
The comments on here make me glad I’m aromantic.
Yeah. It turns out a bunch of tech obsessed nerds aren’t the most socially well adjusted.
Reddit is even better than this.
I misread that as aromatic and was quite confused.
Look, I might be a bit aromatic sometimes, but no, that’s not what I meant.
They reproduce by spreading spores like Rob Lowe’s character on The Orville
Does that mean you get turned on by smelly stuff?
No that’s automatic. They mean antioxidant.
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As a lesbian leaning pansexual, I keep asking the question “are straights okay”
If I linked to the data showing that f/f couples have higher domestic violence than either m/f or m/m couples and then said ‘I keep asking “are lesbians okay”’, would you not think that a callous and insensitive thing to say, implying that it’s majority or typical behavior for lesbians?
Marginalized groups have no problem acting in the exact way they expect others not to about them.
No, they are not. (As a straight person by most definitions probably)
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I enjoy working and making things. I find being intellectually stimulated almost as satisfying as being happy or anything else. You have absolutely no idea how much of a super power being an aromatic asexual would be for me. I’d be unstoppable, lol.
I think I know what you’re getting at, I wouldn’t necessarily call myself asexual though, as I do watch… naughty things (I’m too lazy to look up rules, I’m not shy in that respect) I just waste a lot of time getting informed on politics instead, so no guarantees for more free time😉
Fake: anon approached a girl
Gay: anon was daydreaming for 3 hours about getting engaged
The picture made me assume anon was a girl, so I was thinking that if you, a girl, hear another girl say she wants a man, and you offer your womanly services, it shouldn’t come as a big shock to be rejected and laughed out of the room… Then I read the comments and thought “oh. Yeah. That makes more sense.”
Assumptions ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ
I mean, considering there’s a 100% chance this is just a fantasy in anon’s head I’d say she dodged a bullet.
What makes you think that the girl is even real?
What makes you think that girls are even real?
First the birds, then the girls?
Well, I’m taking estrogen, so they’re about to become real
If you can’t get a big tiddy goth gf, become the big tiddy goth gf.
Everyone on the internet is either a man or a dog.
not true, some of us are cats
You son of a removed, I’m in.
woof
Nice try. We know you’re a frog!
Hmmm… I remember an old lesson from the ancient times of the Internet, now long forgotten:
“Girl” is an acronym for “Guy In Real Life”.
Checkmate; girls are a social construct!
What makes you think?
Tits or gtfo
Well played
Chatbots would have strung him along for at least the subscription fee.
Can I still get your number, with personality like that, you will be!
