My “picker” was broken for many years, so I have a bunch of crazy exes. The common denominator among them was me, but that doesn’t mean I was a bad person, just that I didn’t know what to look for when dating (plus I’m autistic and a bad judge of character). I did eventually have to work on that before I could start dating and trusting people again.
Just because you’re the common denominator doesn’t mean that you’re an asshole. Predators often seek out traumatized people, but you’ll have to work on making yourself a bad target for them if you want to avoid them. I’m sorry, it’s not fair.
My “picker” was broken for many years, so I have a bunch of crazy exes. The common denominator among them was me, but that doesn’t mean I was a bad person, just that I didn’t know what to look for when dating (plus I’m autistic and a bad judge of character). I did eventually have to work on that before I could start dating and trusting people again.
Just because you’re the common denominator doesn’t mean that you’re an asshole. Predators often seek out traumatized people, but you’ll have to work on making yourself a bad target for them if you want to avoid them. I’m sorry, it’s not fair.