Just discovered Lemmy while browsing for Reddit alternatives, so let’s break the ice with this first post.

  • @jadepagodaOP
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    184 hours ago

    I’ve always supported women’s rights, but I don’t consider myself a feminist. First and foremost, I can’t support an ideology that considers women inherent victims (victims of the “patriarchy”). As a woman, I reject that notion and premise. If you put feminist principles and victim mentality characteristics side by side - they basically become a circle. I just don’t find that a healthy mindset to have - I even find it a bit insulting honestly. Secondly, I don’t support demonizing an entire gender (men). Thirdly, most of the feminists I’ve personally interacted with have been nothing but condescending, judgmental or straight up hostile because I chose to get married young, not pursue a career and focus on house and family, letting my husband lead, etc. when I have never been anything but supportive of career women, the stereotypical modern woman archetype, etc. I also don’t appreciate being made into some sort of victim by them because of the lifestyle I chose to lead. To me feminism is a militant group. I’ve also noticed that in the last years feminists have started to adhere to a lot of right wing positions (anti-trans people, anti-sex work, sex negative, anti-pornography, etc.). Modern feminists tend to see women as a monolith, if you deviate from what they believe is right - you’re the wrong kind of woman: which ironically enough is also what the anti-women crowd believe: I guess it’s true what they say, if you go too left you’ll only end up right and vice versa…