I was perplexed by the question. What’s the difference? They explained: “Should I tiptoe and watch my manners around you or be blunt? Flirtatious or chill? Brag about my sexual conquests or talk about our feelings? When you’re sad, do I hug you and buy you ice cream or do we go grab some beers? Should I wonder if we’ll ever hook up?”
I’m not sure if I’m more appalled or confused by this mindset. I thought everyone treated their friends the same regardless of their gender identity. Is this just a fringe case of toxic masculinity, or is this really how the average cis person sees the world?
I think the whole “should I think about fucking you” part is pretty toxic if it’s coming from the mouth of a person you thought was your friend. Yeah, OP makes a generalization about cis people that doesn’t hold water but ultimately all the questions posed leave zero room for any ambiguity that the friend in question needs them to be either a “man” or “woman” in gender which frankly is a poor view on gender. What if they transitioned to non-binary? The friend in question is treating OP like a whole new entity that needs to be reassigned rather than a human who is making subtle adjustments to their social role.