Honestly I’m starting to feel like I have nothing to offer. Everyone always asks what I bring to the table. When both people are working what exactly do you want me to bring to the table?

You either find something you like in me (like my mentality, personality, appearance) or you don’t, I don’t get it.

Do you want me to slave away for you or something? Also I’m pretty introverted so I cant offer you social ties or community for the most part. Guess I’m useless.

I genuinely don’t feel like most people are THAT special. Like most people aren’t rocket scientists who also have 59 obscure hobbies and write dissertations in their spare time. Wtf do people want? A positive outlook?

Ok I have a positive outlook to offer you. They’re gonna laugh in my face when I say that. Oh I’m also quirky by the way. Not like the other girls. Teehee.

  • @Djfok43OPEnglish
    3•6 hours ago

    affection, companionship, attention, care, empathy, collaboration, someone in whom to confide, someone with whom to push through hardships, partnership, entertainment

    Those are just givens? It’s not what I personally bring to the table that’s just what relationships are for. Empathy is part of personality imo though

    Unaddressed trauma

    This one’s kinda weird, I don’t agree that that would make someone undateable

    be someone you find interesting

    I used to think this until I realized no one is that special. I’m only interesting to someone who might be interested. And that’s normal, you can’t always be interesting to everyone.

    put yourself out there with your interests

    I have too many interests and too little time. Honestly I guess I’m just not in a place to date right now. Still doesn’t stop me from getting irritated about it, and people’s grim questions.

    I mean I’m doing a lot of stuff but like, none of them are particularly interesting to the average person I would say. For example, any time I’d share something with my ex he would tell me to get over myself and that I have “main character syndrome” meaning I think I’m more important than I am, and that I don’t really matter much. I kind of agree. Nobody really matters much. I like sharing my feelings and thoughts and ideas, but I’m starting to realize no one really cares about them. Which is why I think I’m better off alone. Maybe I just am an uninteresting stupid person.