I’m sorry to hear that. And yea, the worst part of addiction is how it affects those around us. I couldn’t care less about myself, but knowing I’m causing pain to loved ones is unbearable and leads to even more drug use and self destructive behavior.

Some people just don’t want to change. You can’t do much about it. You can’t really ever help another person. It all comes down to what is with in ourselves.

I am lucky, or had enough foresight to not have children during that time. I would never want to pass my shit on to another human.

I think boundaries are very important. Especially for me and maintaining my sanity and sobriety.

I’m sorry about your brother. As sad as it is say, that’s just the world we live in, and it’s all apart of the human experience. You are probably a better person in some way for having been through that trauma. Whether that’s worth it, I dunno, but it’s important to take the good with the bad.