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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Comfortable-Air-1140 on 2023-06-27 15:50:32+00:00.

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My (m24) girlfriend (f24) recently became interested in photography after being gifted a camera. At first I thought it was great she found a new hobby and was supportive of it, but things have gotten a bit much.

Whenever we go out anywhere, she brings her camera and stops every minute to take photos of flowers, people’s houses, street lamps, rubbish, literally anything. It gets annoying because I always have to wait for her to stop taking photos, or if I walk on eventually, she acts like she doesn’t even notice and makes no effort to walk alongside me. It’s also pretty embarrassing when she’s stood outside someone’s house for five minutes trying to get a perfect shot, like if someone did that outside my house I’d find it creepy or think they were planning a robbery.

She also is trying out street photography where you take candid shots of people. I understand it’s a legitimate type of photography but it makes me uncomfortable when she takes photos of random strangers when she’s with me. She is not very discreet about it and when I ask if she’s concerned about people knowing she’s taken their photo, she just says she’s legally allowed to do so. That may be so but I find it a bit rude or weird to do it without their permission especially when she posts the photos on an instagram account.

I told my girlfriend what I thought the other day because I just wanted to run errands with her without always stopping so she can take photos. I told her there’s nothing wrong with her hobby but that its getting a bit annoying when we are out together. She got really upset, saying she’s found something she’s passionate about and wishes I took more of an interest. She also thought I was mocking her which wasn’t my intention.

She is being withdrawn and distant and I feel I was a bit harsh. I don’t want to stop her from doing something she enjoys or put her down but at the same time it was just getting a bit frustrating. Am I an unsupportive asshole?