If they’re being attacked, then they’re not the ones choosing violence and hatred.

No shit Sherlock

They are reacting to the violence and hatred being done to them.

Reacting how? With violence? And hatred? So your rebuttal is:

they’re not “choosing” violence and hatred… they’re “reacting” with violence and hatred

That’s just brilliant!

Exactly what everyone is pointing out…

No I’m pretty certain the vast majority of people are choosing one side over the other and are NOT pointing out that both sides share some responsibility