Where it can be frustrating is when you get pressed for advice or an opinion after first saying you don’t have an opinion or trying not to commit to something knowing the person won’t like your opinion.

If I get pressed to give an answer then I’m going to sit and figure out what seems to me to be the best way to do things. That takes consideration and time, it takes energy, which I’m happy to give if I’m taken seriously. When people take what I say, and then say “ok I’m still going to do it this other way” with no rationale, then essentially they just insisted that I waste my time. Why do that? Just don’t ask me then, or take me at face value when I say I don’t know or don’t have an opinion.

I’m an introvert, interactions take a lot of energy. It’s so draining to be forced to consider something then be ignored. I don’t think I’m being arrogant, I just don’t want someone to intentionally waste my time and treat me like my opinion doesn’t matter after making me go out of my way to figure out their issue and come up with a solution.