I was there, I saw the thread. @TheDude, did you? It was pretty strongly in favour. Do we really need to keep waiting around to see if an instance administrated by a guy who wants to declare “cis” a slur is going to turn out okay?
https://sh.itjust.works/post/216888 for context.
Don’t you block instances that offend you? I do. I imagine admins/mods whoever are pretty overwhelmed by the influx of new user at the moment. Just block them and move on with your day.