I thought that too. But when my atheist friend lost her child, the only thing I could talk about was ‘energy never gets destroyed and shit’, just to keep her away from organised religion. Because her local priest already has made an appointment to speak to her and her partner.

Sometimes it is really about giving them comfort that their loved ones will be alive as long as they remember them. That’s what I told her but I still feel shitty about it, because I hope there’s something more for the innocents, but I don’t think so.