My parents got married when they were 19 and 21. They only knew each other for 3 months prior to getting married even. They’re almost 70 now and still happily married.

My husband and I got married when we were both 21. We’re almost 30 now and still happily married.

For some, it is possible to know what you want out of your life. For example, I knew since I was 16 years old that I didn’t want any children. My husband was a bit younger than me since he knew. We both knew what our general goals were and how to work towards them.

We talked extensively prior to getting married about a lot of things, such as what happens if one of us becomes severely disabled and requires the other to care for us. Our answers aligned really well and on things we didn’t align on we were able to come to an agreement that satisfied both of us.

I don’t think my case is a common one though. My husband and I have definitely both changed, the difference is that we have changed and grown together. And sometimes it took both of us actively working together to solve any issues.

It is a lot easier to simply wait and skip this process but we were ready to commit.