I’ve been stuck in a car with a family friend who’s a gay conservative. He didn’t come across as self loathing, that’s an over simplification. This guy was incredibly self centered and unemphatic to anyone else. He didn’t even trust his boyfriend to be telling the truth about not working in a porn store. Shared stories about his toxic childhood, but did so fondly. I got the impression that he thought “the other gays” just need to suck it up. He definitely loves himself and only himself.