• @[email protected]
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    4 months ago

    It’s always wild to me how much sex gay men have that they have to put out announcements like this, it often feels like monogamy is rare among them based on news coverage (not sure how true it actually is), whereas for my gay trans ass I’ve never even sought casual sex and hadn’t had any since I first transitioned in my teens and subsequently decided my virginity was to be no more, now my only partner is always my S.O., I figured it’d be the norm amongst queer people.

    • @nforminvasion
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      04 months ago

      No. A lot of gay men have open relationships and a lot of queer people do too. Chosen monogamy can be great for many but it is not the norm. There really is no norm

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        Wild, so they practice polygamy? Gotta say I don’t know any gay men but I’ve never seen lesbians or bis, both cis and trans be anything but monogamous.

        Is it an fwb network thing or like proper relationships but they just don’t care who their partner bangs on the side? I’m genuinely curious, not trying to come off as insulting.

        • @captainlezbian
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          24 months ago

          Really? It’s like a joke in the trans lesbian community that we’re all poly, and most cis bi women I know are poly.

          • @[email protected]
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            14 months ago

            Never heard of it, all the trans lesbian relationships I’ve been in with bi and les trans women have been completely monogamous. Maybe it’s just your group of friends?

            • @captainlezbian
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              04 months ago

              It was a running joke on transfem Reddit.

              My community irl is biased, but that’s because everyone in it is more likely to be poly

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                Wild, maybe it’s a regional thing like I said with your group of friends. Fwiw I don’t think there’s such a thing as a trans community IRL btw, most trans people only know one or two other trans people at most. Like I know a few but they all don’t know each other etc.

                • @captainlezbian
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                  04 months ago

                  I know at least 10-15 trans people irl. I met my also trans wife irl and not at a trans specific event. We know a lot of us.

                  Maybe it’s where you live

        • @nforminvasion
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          -14 months ago

          I’d say some of them practice polyamory but many are just in open relationships.

          In open relationships they definitely have a primary relationship but they have hookups and often will develop regular connections. That’s often due to a safety of knowing that person’s tested and clean, as well as being easier to get into the headspace than with a complete stranger at times.

          • @[email protected]
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            14 months ago

            Damn, that’s rough. I never knew how lucky I was to know I never had to worry about the testing and all that, godspeed to them in that case.

            Another q: Are open relationships considered polygamy?

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    I didn’t realize how much sex gay men have until my sister’s friend started showing me his pill collection.

    The dude takes like 7 pills a day so that he can safely let strangers cum in him 4 nights a week.