• prole
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      341 year ago

      Yeah, context is pretty important in this case

      • @NightAuthor
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        131 year ago

        “It won’t help” is pretty fucking devastating.

      • @[email protected]
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        111 year ago

        Xkcd has recurring characters and storyline that are separated but connected. Blackhat is basically an asshole with style character (a classhole). The girl is Danish, the only person to one up him, and them meeting and their relationship is in the “Journal” series.

        A few others are white hat, who isn’t always the same person, as well as Cueball, Mrs Roberts (mother of Lil Bobby tables) and a few others. You don’t need tro know them to get a comics joke, but if you follow the whole work it’s like little Easter eggs you can find.

    • @pixeltreeOP
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      141 year ago

      It’s stuck in my head as particularly self descriptive the past decade or so and I just wanted to share it

    • @pixeltreeOP
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      121 year ago

      In context it’s not so bad but it’s really stuck with me as particularly self descriptive the past decade or so as I keep hurting myself by allowing myself to hope over and over again

  • @NightAuthor
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    101 year ago

    Realizing I had ADHD and Social Anxiety, and that there are coping mechanisms and drugs to help has me really optimistic.

    Things aren’t rainbows and unicorns just yet, but the rain at least seems to be letting go up.

  • @gbzm
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    Ah, negging. Maybe my depression is healthier than I though, with how much I’ve been negging myself I must fancy myself suite a bit!

  • 👁️👄👁️
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    41 year ago

    I’d definitely does get better though. It’s full of ups and downs, but hopefully it consistently goes up on average.

      • 👁️👄👁️
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        91 year ago

        That’s definitely the depression talking in you. What do you consider happiness to be?

          • @[email protected]
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            91 year ago

            My fellow human, you’re either depressed, and you should seek help, it will do you great good, or you should start looking into some personal growth wisdom.

            Both aren’t easy paths, but they’re well worth it.

              • @[email protected]
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                71 year ago

                Depression isn’t equal to all the things you compared it to, and saying that none of us can change no matter how hard we try, maybe shows that you’re the first obstacle to it.

                I wish you luck and for things to get better.

          • 👁️👄👁️
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            11 year ago

            Well if you guys have been friends for years, then hopefully that’s not something that can break over night. It can be worth trying to salvaging that. He could just be saying that in a moment where he felt emotional, then sobered up a few days feeling regretful and cruel. It’s worth reaching out to see if he’d like to keep talking. Fights between friends is normal, and patching it up is even more important. Some people can’t even maintain friends for years like you did, that’s an important skill on its own. And yeah, all I can do is relate to the last stuff cuz I’m also struggling feeling that way. I have friends, but am in a complicated situation where I can’t be with the girl I’m in love with, and she doesn’t feel the same way, but I’m with her 8 hours pretty much every day so it’s pretty painful. I also lost a promotion to a guy I really hate and have to work under him now, so I need to figure out how to navigate that as well this week. Swallowing your ego and going about things is really hard, ya know. I think we’re both going through that.

  • @[email protected]
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    31 year ago

    A cycle of mediocrity is not an identity or intrinsic trait ffs. That’s wrong on several levels.

    First of all, expectations. We can’t all be Nobel prize winners or cure cancer or whatever else qualifies as excelling.

    And also, if you’re not happy now, chances are achieving great things won’t do it for you either. Usually the people that society ascribes greatness to sacrifice many important things and often are giant assholes (see Steve Jobs as just one example of many).

    Plenty of average people are actually happy without being the supposed top of the heap.

    But if you’re failing to achieve your dreams – or failing to even try to in the first place – it may be due to myriad things one can indeed work on. E.g., it may well be related to a mix of some past trauma, depression, ADHD, or expectations, values, lack of knowledge or skills.

    Assuming you have realistic goals, the only way to guarantee you’ll never achieve them is to give up.

  • @[email protected]
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    31 year ago

    A friend once told me that he kept a note on his fridge that asked, “What is stopping you?” I was inspired.

    I have a sticky note on my display with the same question. The answer is ME.