Victim advocates and therapists say portions of audio recordings made by Michael Haight just hours before police say he shot and killed his family highlight the warning signs of domestic violence.

“He sounds like and he mimics so many decent men in our lives,” said Kimmi Wolf with the Utah Domestic Violence Coalition. “That image of a domestic violence abuser being explosive, someone foaming at the mouth, someone wearing a literal ‘wife-beater’ T-shirt that’s stained — that image negates so much of what really happens.”