Practice for the act when it inevitably gets asked. Grab hands, look at each other. Look at the “questioner” and time yourselves to squeezing hands together. The practice of speaking to the mutual grabbing and timing so that you can say, at the same time, “I AM”

This answers pretty much every single question. In the few exceptions you have a moment to shake your head when looking at each other. You don’t need to discuss. The answer to any exception is “None of your business.” and “Mind your own.”

In the inevitable risky result, counter any argument or further questions with exactly that, questions in return. “If you’d like an answer, then you must provide your own first.”

I suggest:

What is the purpose of your inquiry?

What is the result of acquiring an answer?

Finish with:

“Give us your contact information. We will discuss the answer(s) you’ve given and upon determining your eligibity, will respond with the answers you deserve, should you for any. Feel free to provide more information about yourself should you desire to meet necessary qualifications.”

I mean, when the wrong people ask the wrong questions, then the proper results are always to respond with questions in return. Proper answers to said questions may nullify the sense of wrongness accidentally dispatched by one of actual care given too soon but they, like myself, are generally rare. Even when they exist they are mindful to improve such method even if it takes years to learn to exert such properly. In my own defense then, to clarify, I am merely stating that it is wise to be able to detect such from such even though it is rare.