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Cake day: July 12th, 2023

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  • It feels very impersonal, which is probably because/why it’s used so often by detectives investigating deaths. There’s a noncommittal “… but yes you’re a suspect, and where were you at 7:22 pm last night?” that goes with it. I’m sorry for your loss, but what did you gain?

    As a human talking to a friend you can probably do better. But think it out and practice it beforehand, because saying something, anything, is better than getting tongue-tied and saying nothing. Or worse, avoiding them altogether.










  • I have tried the “no shoes inside” thing and can’t stand the constant feeling of dirt particles on my bare feet even while I’m walking on the floor behind a swiffer, broom, or mop. I’d rather keep my shoes on and just assume the floor is not 100% clean even when someone has just cleaned it.

    But I have a logistics question: I know you have a place for shoes by the front door, but what do you do about the back door? Or in my case the three sliding-glass doors onto balconies that I use daily? Is one supposed to keep going to the front door to get shoes and carrying them through the house? My balconies overhang the street and get a lot of road grime, plus my plants drop leaves etc., so shoes are very necessary out there. And many people have back yards. I’m curious about what you do.



  • This art is really sweet:

    Somewhere in the next 13 miles, she fell in with a pace group being led by another Cincinnatian: Harvey Lewis, the ultramarathon world record-holder. Dick didn’t know it was him at the time. She was just running next to a guy giving very good advice.

    “He was saying to calm your breathing, relax your shoulders, and just focus on the mile we are in, not the miles we had to go,” Dick said. “And actually it wasn’t until later, when I finished, that I realized it was none other than Harvey Lewis, who is just a legend in terms of the ultramarathon community. It was his 100th marathon. And I really just want to thank him for what he’s done for me"

    (Honestly that’s good advice for the tough parts of life in general. And remember to thank the people who helped you when you make it through.)