We’ve been married for 2 years and been together for 4. We have a healthy sexual relationship although after the arrival of our kid we don’t have sex that much. The thing is that I want her to be more of a hotwife. To give you an example of my “dream” :
I would like it if we go for vacations and we stay in an adult only hotel where she would have the freedom to flirt with whoever she likes and she can have sex or just flirt with him for as long as we are there.
Do you have any advice on how to approach this? Should I just keep fantasizing about her with others or I should talk to her?
Thank you in advance
I think you can say honestly you find it hot when other guys check her out, or that sometimes you’d think about her with someone as your ‘porn’ without pushing her to do anything. You cannot push her into being someone else just because you’d find it sexy, but it’s not wrong for you to find it sexy.
If she is so wiped out from having the baby she doesn’t even have time for sex with YOU, she probably doesn’t have the drive for more than one guy! Is it possible you just miss her more active sexuality? It will come back, stay connected and physically touching, do things together.