Hey Daddit
I’m about to be the father in just a couple more months. My own father, mostly absent, was a raging alcoholic who, in recent years, has made the switch to meth. I have absolutely no concept of being a good dad outside of TV and short interactions with a few of my friends’ dad’s (though, to be honest, most of my friends have shit fathers as well).
So I’ll outsource the question - when do you feel like you’re doing better than your own parents? Is it hard when you don’t have a good blueprint? Any advice?
Just the fact you’re asking about being a good father is a great sign, means you care, which a poor father won’t!
Involve yourself in your kids’ lives and put in time with them and it’ll turn out ok. When I was learning about being a father I looked for people to look up to as good parents and tried to emulate them. My best role model said put in the time, because it will all come back to you through your kids.