• 𝓔𝓶𝓶𝓲𝓮
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    7 months ago

    I wish I could just eat a pill once a day marked with desired bmi and forget about eating and focus on real stuff instead. I can barely hit 17.7 bmi even with some huel powder in a cup that is a hassle to wash. I want like 20 bmi to not look like a stick but it is hard to remember to eat that much

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      197 months ago

      The part of this that sucks is that one day this shit just stops. Went from skinny stick figure constantly being told to eat more and put on weight while eating SO much, then I hit 35 and all of a sudden I’m 15kg overweight and sporting a nice double chin.

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        7 months ago

        Barely ever eating and still gaining weight must’ve been amazing a million years ago when there was no food but it’s the bane of my existence now.

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          57 months ago

          Keep fit, watch your diet and look after your skin and teeth and you’ll get it right. I’m a bit chubby now but I’m feeling better now that I’m doing these things.

          • @[email protected]
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            6 months ago

            Thank you I was making fun of myself mostly.

            I’m legitimately not worried, I make a point to chase after my niblings and climb up things I shouldn’t for exercise.

            But should I still be worried?

            • @Regrettable_incident
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              27 months ago

              Exercise gets harder to keep up when you get older and everything starts hurting.

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              17 months ago

              I think as long as you’re living an active lifestyle, it’s all good.

              Just remember to always wear sunscreen :P

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        7 months ago

        Sorry if this comes off as a aggressive, but ive yet to see any of the “changes in an instant” things people say actually happen. For example, before you know it 10 years has gone by! Or yours, suddenly your belly just pops out!

        When I gained 80 weight like that, it was very easy to point to the steps along the way. Its also important to realize how long it took to gain weight, as it can affect how quick you think you can lose it.

        I’m almost positive its just people not paying attention. If its important to you then pay attention to it. If it was so unimportant that it seemed sudden, was it really that important to begin with?

        Is it just people suddenly caring about something that they didnt for their whole lives and having to deal with all of it at once?

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          7 months ago

          For me it was pretty rapid after covid hit, I didn’t change what I was eating by much, but I was no longer in office walking around or I had a habit of going up and down stairs for breaks and such.

          Though similarly everyone said I look more healthy now lmao

          Went from about 128-132 to 158-162

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            27 months ago

            I had to argue with family members that I was in fact still at a very healthy bmi at 130 pounds. They started making comments about losing too much when I was still in the overweight category. Not sure what that’s all about.

            Not to contradict your point, but I thought it was interesting you moved around more in office, where I move far more at home where I can work on chores or cook in little bursts.

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          17 months ago

          I don’t think it’s about caring.

          When you slowly boil the frog in water, does it care that it’s being boiled? Yes. Does it notice? Not initially no, it becomes apparent later on when it impacts it’s life.

          I was stuck inside for almost 2 years alone, I didn’t have friends and I felt shit about myself altogether. I didn’t look in the mirror and I didn’t notice.

          Until a friend sent me a photo of me at the park and I realised how bad it was and that I felt disgusting.

          Did I care? Yeah, but I didn’t notice the gradual change. I can identify the behavior and I can say the average time span, but I have no idea when it actually started or when it started to plateau.

          I don’t have a scale, I don’t weigh myself, I actively avoid mirrors to stop me from hating myself even more…

          I also think you’re taking the saying too literally.

          • @[email protected]
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            17 months ago

            Thats a bad analogy, the frog constantly wants to live, and has essentially been tricked.

            In your case, you tricked yourself by not looking at yourself, despite the fact that you do in fact care how you look.

            I’d say that’s more of a conscious decision to not deal with something than akin to being boiled alive.

            In my opinion, ignoring something is an action, not inaction.

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              17 months ago

              What does that even matter?

              Maybe I don’t want to be alive? Maybe being alive was something that was done to me? Maybe being born into the family and body I have is the trick?

              Like, you sound so pedantic, bitter and quite angry about something people say to express something happening slowly without necessarily noticing how bad it is until something brings it to their attention.

              Believe it or not, and this may be hard to grasp, but not everyone experiences life the way you do in your head.

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                17 months ago

                I’m not saying everyone experiences things the same way. Everyone has their own perspective, and most importantly, is capable of changing it. I think the perspective displayed in the “life rushing by” memes, is negative and toxic. I think if that meme resonates with you, then it might be helpful to think about why.

                If you didnt want to discuss your perspective compared to mine, I’m not sure why we are talking.

                If you really wanted to know my feeling when I saw this post, since you made quite a few guesses, I felt hopeful that I could share my perspective with others and learn more about theres, using the meme as a vehicle.

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                  17 months ago

                  But you’re not discussing it, your projecting your world views on others and making accusations and assumptions about me. Which I don’t really appreciate. You neither know me, how my mind works or what I’ve gone through. It also seems like you may or may not understand how mental health issues can affect cognition or perception.

                  So with that, I’ll end the conversation there.

    • @[email protected]
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      137 months ago

      Skinnies rise up. For me I just don’t take the same kind of pleasure in food that friends do, even my slim friends will fight to finish every meal where I’m like nah bro I’m full why would I force myself to finish it.

      So often think about how cool it would be to just get a food pill.

      • 𝓔𝓶𝓶𝓲𝓮
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        37 months ago

        Or we are permanently depressed or smh and not enjoy simple things as much as we could that’s a thought that is in the back of my head sometimes.

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          17 months ago

          Feel called out there. Although I’d say I’m less depressed now, but I wouldn’t say I’m happy but never feel like I will be happy I’ll just plod along you know.

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            27 months ago

            After being depressed for the last 20+ years, I tried RTMS and I have to say I think it has worked. I don’t feel so fucking down all the time. I don’t know if it’s a placebo, but even if it is, I am using this opportunity to completely turn my life around. Started eating healthy, working out and looking after myself and I’m feeling great.

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      127 months ago

      If you’re able to you should try working out. It increases your appetite. I went from ~18 bmi to ~23 after I started weight lifting and look a lot healthier now. It also took care of a lot of the random aches and pains I had.

      • 𝓔𝓶𝓶𝓲𝓮
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        Yeah I really need to. I spent a year trying to keep some working out routine. It’s so easy to slip and forget about it. I usually wake up and like wtf I had this healthy routine everything was nice but then some activity/project/idea absorbed me 24/7 for few days and it just evaporated like it never existed. Whether it was learning German, blender or drawing or suddenly writing scifi or warhammer painting or music making or playing guitar or physics learning etc… it is always few days of being utterly lost in that thing

        There’s no constant things ever for me but just a repeated cycle of relearning the same thing again and again. I keep enormous collection of tabs on my… developments but forget to come back to them too. I hope they stay somewhere in my subconsciousness

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          67 months ago

          Doesn’t matter if you forgot to work out for a bit. The trick is to just start again when you realise you’ve stopped.

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              27 months ago

              Try taking up climbing, if you can meet friends that way, you’ll have them to keep you accountable. Also it’s way more fun than being at a normal gym.

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          47 months ago

          I found having to actually go to the gym was a huge hurdle for me so I bought a 200lb set of adjustable dumbbells and a foldable weight bench for at home. It’s nice because if I get lost in something and forget to work out until later I can still do something on the spot. If I had room I’d buy a full weight set but I’d need a house for that. If you don’t want to spend money or don’t have space there’s also a lot of bodyweight stuff you can do at home.

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            17 months ago

            Could you provide more info? Any specific workout routine?

            • @[email protected]
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              I started off with a routine I got online. I thought it was off the fitness Reddit but I can’t find it now. This one is fairly close to what I do when I’m just maintaining- https://old.reddit.com/r/Fitness/comments/2e79y4/dumbbell_ppl_proposed_alternative_to_dumbbell/. As I’ve progressed I’ve adjusted different things to mix things up or to focus on particular muscles. You can find a lot of videos on youtube that show you how to do different exercises, but make sure to get more than one opinion on things before you take just one persons word for something. There is a lot of bad info floating around out there.

              The dumbell set was from the brand Yes4all I got off Amazon, at the time they were a good price but I couldn’t say now after Covid made everything more expensive. Also pick up some gloves. Your hands will thank you.

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        27 months ago

        I reasonate with this. Giving up smoking also helped my appetite.

      • Liz
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        7 months ago

        Apparently Lemmy uses ~ as a markup symbol, so by sure to escape it by putting a slash in front like this ~!

        Fucking hell I can’t get it to format right…

        \~

        Something goes wonky if you have two in one paragraph…

            • Liz
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              Yeah but a pair of single tildes makes for subscript for some reason.

              • @PainInTheAES
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                Huh, TIL. That doesn’t appear to be implemented in the mobile app I use.

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      Working out made me take almost 10kg over 6 months, and even after stopping I did not really lose much (well the muscle turned to fat surely). Might be worth exploring. Am slightly above 1.80, and was below 70kg