People say lemmy isnt as toxic as reddit and while i feel thats partially true i also feel its partially not

if you have the best of intentions but the group or user circles dont think so then you are turned away

I recently shared a video in a post that in my opinion contains feedback that could be beneficial to open source, met with mostly hostility on that post when i only wanted to share that video to help open source

and then there is the toxicity of some groups on lemmy, im left wing because i think everyone should be equal and the world should be free from bigotry and intolerance but some of the left wing comments on lemmy read as toxic and i feel like I’m a person who wants better in the world but I’m excluded from other left wing people because of the toxicity

it makes me feel i have the be careful on lemmy with what i say and cant give good intentioned feedback or criticism to other users because it’ll just be met with hostility if the group / user circle/s doesn’t like it or be misinterpreted as an attack

all of that can feel very unwelcoming me at times

sorry if this doesn’t come across as clear, its just that i suck at writing “high quality posts / comments” and i wanted to get emotion to text and vent

  • HubertManne
    1•6 months ago

    im not on lemmy but you likely are interacting with the whole fediverse. the fediverse itself is onthe internet and be reflective of that. Personally I used to play mmos and the chat on that gave me a good example. mmo chat is a horrible cesspool, but generally only because of a minority of players. Once you block enough the chat becomes pleasant. In addition subscribe to what you like and remember the same subject can be on multiple domains so if the crowd is not great in one you can always unsubscribe and subscribe to one of the others. I subscribe to any I find on a subject and unsubscribe is one is making me feel uncomfortable. Treat it like the real world. If you hang out someplace and don’t feel happy then you generally go hang out someplace else. Im not saying to leave lemmy im saying use the tools at hand. I hope the tools for user empowerment increase as the federation matures. I know for lemmy I can block domains but it does not seem to do anything but I prefer that work to my instance not federating with things personally.