• @kemsat
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    6318 days ago

    I’ve dated some girls that apparently had never been taught vaginal hygiene. My guess is that’s a cultural phenomenon that causes men to not want to dine on beaver. Keep it fresh.

      • @kemsat
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        2518 days ago

        Oh no worries, I have sisters & I heard my mom teaching them when I was growing up. So I taught my exes how to do it.

        • @Stupidmanager
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          2218 days ago

          Gah, as I reentered the dating world after a long (looooong) marriage, I experienced this and I am not looking forward to more of this. Glad to see someone else who has sisters and heard “the talk from mom” but at my age (40s), I should not be teaching you the very easy and basic maintenance of your vagina. As we were fooling around I could smell her more and more, and I was polite to the gal and tried to encourage her to use the lady wash setting on my bidet, “it’s a game changer”… “no thanks”. Sigh… sex was mediocre and I was done with that relationship.

          My Ex-wife was never taught proper hygiene and sex was a shunned topic at her home. So when i finally broached the “smell” a few years in (20s), it was a rough time and required counseling for us both. Bidet seats about 18 years ago after a trip to Italy were a marriage/sex saver… well, somewhat. Clearly i’m divorced now, but thats a different issue.

          • flicker
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            1618 days ago

            I want to make sure that the average reader knows that if a woman is excited (more and more) you should eventually have a smell. It shouldn’t be fishy or disgusting, but vaginas produce moisture when excited, and that healthy moisture does have a smell.

            Unfortunately I have very small labia so I had to learn a lot about how not to expose the area to soap or too much water.

            • @Stupidmanager
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              518 days ago

              Good catch and I agree. Once my ex wife took care of herself properly, it was a positive experience for us both.

    • @LemmyKnowsBest
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      216 days ago

      If you had sex and she started to smell horribly within the next couple days, you probably gave her bacterial vaginosis, which is common when women have new or numerous sexual partners. Her doctor can prescribe an antibiotic and she will smell fresh again within a few days. Notwithstanding that stench which requires medical intervention, I’m pretty sure all sexually-active civilized humans wash their genitals in the shower. Strange that you think some women don’t know how to wash themselves and you think she smells bad on purpose to repel you.

      • @kemsat
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        116 days ago

        No no. I meant the first time.

    • lemmyvore
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      -1318 days ago

      Yeah that must be the reason. Not that most men don’t know how, won’t ask how, will get bored after two minutes of absent-mindedly licking the general area, or generally just won’t. 😄