• Flying Squid
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    26 months ago

    And yet you can’t think of one other marginalized group of people where every time a finger is pointed at them, people claim the person doing the pointing is part of that group.

    Curious that you don’t find that problematic despite having no other examples.

    • @nomous
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      06 months ago

      Self-hate is a funny thing.

      I wonder if that’s a “law” yet ala Goodwin, Winslow, Murphy, etc. “The hate a person has for a group is proportionate to the amount of “denied/repressed belonging” that same person has to said group.”

      • Flying Squid
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        26 months ago

        See, this sounds like you’re saying queer people are the cause of homophobia, which is exactly what my point was.

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          6 months ago

          That’s not my intention and I’m sorry you took it that way.

          • Flying Squid
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            26 months ago

            I believe that was not your intention, but that is what makes it so problematic. When you suggest that most or all homophobes are queer, you’re suggesting that homophobia is an internal problem, not an external one, even if you don’t realize that’s what you’re doing. Because the inference to be made there is that if you really hate queer people, you can’t be cishet.

            • @nomous
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              16 months ago

              you’re suggesting that homophobia is an internal problem,

              I believe homophobia (and basically all other hate) is mostly an internal (mental) problem, you don’t?

              the inference to be made there is that if you really hate queer people, you can’t be cishet.

              Ah I get it now, I guess I disagree with that inference but I see how it follows. More honestly I would say that most people aren’t 100% straight/cishet and sexual fluidity is extremely common (though we’re only becoming aware of it now) so the inference would be correct and most people wouldn’t be homophobic.

              • Flying Squid
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                16 months ago

                Internal as in only involving queer people.

                The point is it gives any cishet bigot an excuse to be homophobic because they aren’t queer so it’s okay. It’s not bigotry.

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                  The point is it gives any cishet bigot an excuse to be homophobic because they aren’t queer

                  If we’re following it logically, they hate themselves at least in part because they’re queer; it’s self-hatred but they can be a self-hating bigot, they’re not mutually exclusive.

                  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internalized_oppression

                  • Flying Squid
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                    26 months ago

                    Again, this suggests that you cannot be cishet and bigoted against queer people. That the only people bigoted against queer people are themselves queer. Therefore anything someone who is cishet says about queer people no matter how offensive cannot be homophobic by virtue of having been said by a cishet person.

                    That’s just basic extrapolation from such reasoning.