Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I’m curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

  • @BonesOfTheMoon
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    49 days ago

    Just drive around and ask random women if they’re interested in a stranger in a truck. Can’t lose.

    But honestly if I were single it would take me a hot minute to find someone new, but I don’t think I’d want it. Men are a LOT.

    • Clay_pidginOP
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      59 days ago

      A lot of humble awesomeness, in my case. Obviously.

      I guess the truck method is like swiping <whichever direction is positive> on EVERYONE in a dating app. It only has to work once to be a good method!

      • @BonesOfTheMoon
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        39 days ago

        I’ve never online dated before. I’m too old for that shit. I can’t imagine how crazy it would be. Are there any older people on those apps?

        • Clay_pidginOP
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          39 days ago

          No idea, I’ve never tried one. I’ve been married since before smartphones. There’s a lot of variety in dating apps I hear about. If there’s one just for farmers and one for Christian nationalists, there’s gotta be one for adults.

        • @StupidBrotherInLaw
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          9 days ago

          Definitely, but it’s mostly twenty to thirty somethings, some forties. My wife and I are nearly in our fifties and occasionally make a fake account to whatever service is big that year/decade to see what we’ve been missing. We don’t feel like we’re missing much.

          A buddy of ours of similar age is a widower and, after many years, has decided to try dating again. He’s meeting women but has variable results. I can’t say he’s having better or worse dates than when meeting people in person, but he’s having a lot more of all the dates, so it’s like they’re more concentrated.