Disclaimer: I am not trolling, I am an autistic person who doesn’t understand so many social nuances. Also I am from New Hampshire (97% white), so I just don’t have any close African-American friends that I am willing to risk asking such a loaded question.
Serious question: how do I tell the difference?
ask :)
You build up knowledge over time by paying attention to how the culture that it is tied to responds, since most racist stuff doesn’t make logical sense.
For an example of it being complicated, the Florida Seminoles college football team is fine because the school has coordinated with the tribe. I don’t know of any other professional or college sports team that does so, and any that don’t are exploiting Native American culture and most likely using racist stereotypes as part of their team ‘spirit’.
It’s the same way neurotypicals learn the preferences of a neurodivergent person.
Many times we make mistakes. And many times we have to be told flat out or pick up cues.
I’m a white Christian man in Texas. I know I’m privileged and that that privilege often comes with ignorance, so I used to be really nervous about offending people inadvertently.
But I eventually learned to just ask if I wasn’t sure.
It did help that one of my best friends in college was a black lesbian who transitioned Jr year. I joked with him that he was my token “X” friend.