• Flying Squid
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    32 months ago

    Apart from what other people have pointed out- what if one of your friends does great harm to another of your friends? How do you stay loyal to both of them?

    • @Persen
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      -12 months ago

      You pretend to be on the side of both of them, but it could fall apart very quickly. So I don’t do it anymore. I just make my own arguments and side with the victim.

      • Flying Squid
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        22 months ago

        So you were lying to your friends about having their back? That makes you the bad friend.

        • @Persen
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          2 months ago

          Yes, that’s kind off true. I don’t lie to them about having their back, I lie to them about my opinion as I try to avoid conflict. I don’t do it against my actual friends, just to people I’m forced to communicate with to function in society.

          • Flying Squid
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            22 months ago

            What is the difference between your friends and your actual friends? Because I thought we were talking about your friends and I also thought that friends are actual friends.

            • @Persen
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              -12 months ago

              I actually like and help some of my friends, who do respect me, but others, who act like my friends but actually just bully and gaslight me, I just use for my own benefit (usually by pretending to be fine with it). Those assholes could help you, without you having to have any obligations to them.

              • Flying Squid
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                2 months ago

                Using people for your benefit also makes you a bad friend, and a questionable person.

                It’s also a step down the road to advocating for slavery.

                Doing something really immoral to a person who mistreats you while pretending to be their friends is not the right way to deal with such situations.

                • @Persen
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                  2 months ago

                  It’s true, but it doesn’t change the fact they are an asshole. Also slavery is a bit of an extreme portrayal.

                  • Flying Squid
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                    22 months ago

                    “They are an asshole” is not an excuse to use or exploit a person.