• @qarbone
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    102 months ago

    We fetishizing autism now?

    Missed that memo.

    • Lux
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      192 months ago

      I dont think its weird to find autism attractive. Depending on who you ask, it might be called a disorder or just a normal trait. It’s the same way that any trait can be attractive.

    • I'm back on my BS 🤪
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      192 months ago

      If I’m autistic and want to find a romantic partner that I can connect with on that level, is that fetishizing?

      • @qarbone
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        52 months ago

        Well, I didn’t find a real, good definition of ‘fetishizing’ but, if we agree on the one I’ll provide below, you should be able to answer for yourself in this and future cases.^1

        Fetishization is the choice to extremely, positively overweight one or more intrinsic qualities of a person or group of people, such that there is a sexual or romantic preference of a person or group of people based on that innate trait, irrespective of their overall character as a person.

        Autism is weird for this definition because, while it is an inherent facet of a person, it does have a large effect on how a person grows up. This obviously shapes their character.

        As an experiment, take your hypothetical dream person. A second party is a necessity for mental grounding. If you can find another person to assist, have them swap out character traits (social, personal, mental, etc.) until you find a point you’d no longer find the hypothetical dream person appealing.

        Anyway, hope you can do some self-study and find that answer.

        ^1 If you don’t agree, then we’re piss outta luck and I’m gonna leave.

        • I'm back on my BS 🤪
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          32 months ago

          Going with that definition, I don’t fetishize autistic women because my perception of a women’s sexiness is not affected by neurotype. It’s the relationship and connection that I would value with an autistic woman over others.

    • @[email protected]
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      2 months ago

      I don’t think that is fetishising. That’s preference, fetishising meand reducing someone/something to a sexual object

      • @[email protected]
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        02 months ago

        That’s just the more common usage. It doesn’t just apply to relationships or people, but also hobbies and professions.