James Bowman changed his name to JD Vance to get away from a moniker that he associated with trauama, a life he didn’t want to live, and someone he felt he wasn’t.
He doesn’t think transpeople deserve to do the same.
Deadnaming him feels appropiate, I’m treating him the way he treats me.
Same with Rafael Cruz and other regressives who have changed their name for personal reasons. As long as they insist on using people’s dead names I will only refer to them by theirs. The golden rule, treat others as you wish to be treated.
As long as they insist on using people’s dead names I will only refer to them by theirs.
Don’t, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind. Fight them, but never drop to their level. Then they’ve reached their goal and it’s lost. Be better than them.
Stooping to the enemy’s level makes you just like them. It feels good to be petty but it doesn’t help. And it isn’t like you are personally talking to them so they can feel the sting.
i tried for too long to be decent toward people who weren’t decent to me. In return for my decency, i now have issues with depression and anxiety.
i won’t be decent to anyone who’s a dick. I’ll be petty as fuck. I’ll key their car, i’ll park super close to them in the parking lot so they can’t open their car door to get in, I’ll use their dead names, I’ll call them out in public, I’ll hire hookers to accost them in front of their families, demanding payment for services never rendered. I’ll throw nails on their driveways so they get punctures.
Except in this case you aren’t doing any of those. He will never read it. He will never know. You are doing it for you but it has no effect on them at all.
Show what you wrote to a therapist and ask them if that’s healthy. Ask if it contributes to or helps with that anxiety.
James Bowman changed his name to JD Vance to get away from a moniker that he associated with trauama, a life he didn’t want to live, and someone he felt he wasn’t.
He doesn’t think transpeople deserve to do the same.
Deadnaming him feels appropiate, I’m treating him the way he treats me.
Same with Rafael Cruz and other regressives who have changed their name for personal reasons. As long as they insist on using people’s dead names I will only refer to them by theirs. The golden rule, treat others as you wish to be treated.
If they opt out of polite society, then they do not deserve the privileges of polite society.
Don’t, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind. Fight them, but never drop to their level. Then they’ve reached their goal and it’s lost. Be better than them.
Stooping to the enemy’s level makes you just like them. It feels good to be petty but it doesn’t help. And it isn’t like you are personally talking to them so they can feel the sting.
We tried “When they go low, we go high.”, it got us the most blatantly corrupt Supreme Court in US History
This isn’t going high when they go low. This is just being a decent person.
i tried for too long to be decent toward people who weren’t decent to me. In return for my decency, i now have issues with depression and anxiety.
i won’t be decent to anyone who’s a dick. I’ll be petty as fuck. I’ll key their car, i’ll park super close to them in the parking lot so they can’t open their car door to get in, I’ll use their dead names, I’ll call them out in public, I’ll hire hookers to accost them in front of their families, demanding payment for services never rendered. I’ll throw nails on their driveways so they get punctures.
Except in this case you aren’t doing any of those. He will never read it. He will never know. You are doing it for you but it has no effect on them at all.
Show what you wrote to a therapist and ask them if that’s healthy. Ask if it contributes to or helps with that anxiety.