Hello. I’m a woman. And I’m also a dumbass who thinks she has no shot with pretty much anyone. Plus I’m easily embarrassed.
Plus if I’m interested I’m like “Ugh i don’t want to be a creep who’d approach someone for their looks”, projecting because I get uncomfortable if someone finds me attractive, completely ignoring in the moment that if you don’t do that you’ll never get to know the person.
This behaviour makes no sense. Just wanted to reassure(?) you that guys don’t have a monopoly on stupidity.
This is the beauty of the human condition, so many shared experiences even across all boundaries.
Also as a guy: Unless he’s an 11/10 nearly every guy is going to be stoked about a girl being attracted to their looks even if they aren’t romantically interested.
I have been told exactly twice that I looked handsome by women outside my family in my entire long life, and have also been reassured by many people that I know and trust the judgment of, that I was a solid 7/10 in my college days.
Stupid me had zero clue, interpreted their stares as mockery and just basically kept to myself from frosh to graduation.
Please don’t make the same mistake I did and just let the decades slip by. Take that risk, ask the guy/girl because you don’t want to be like me pushing 50 with 3 short and unsatisfying relationships to show for it.
Yes it’s scary, yes it’s risky, but a safe life of no risks will leave you pretty hollow towards the end of it.
Hello. I’m a woman. And I’m also a dumbass who thinks she has no shot with pretty much anyone. Plus I’m easily embarrassed.
Plus if I’m interested I’m like “Ugh i don’t want to be a creep who’d approach someone for their looks”, projecting because I get uncomfortable if someone finds me attractive, completely ignoring in the moment that if you don’t do that you’ll never get to know the person.
This behaviour makes no sense. Just wanted to reassure(?) you that guys don’t have a monopoly on stupidity.
This is the beauty of the human condition, so many shared experiences even across all boundaries.
Also as a guy: Unless he’s an 11/10 nearly every guy is going to be stoked about a girl being attracted to their looks even if they aren’t romantically interested.
I have been told exactly twice that I looked handsome by women outside my family in my entire long life, and have also been reassured by many people that I know and trust the judgment of, that I was a solid 7/10 in my college days.
Stupid me had zero clue, interpreted their stares as mockery and just basically kept to myself from frosh to graduation.
Please don’t make the same mistake I did and just let the decades slip by. Take that risk, ask the guy/girl because you don’t want to be like me pushing 50 with 3 short and unsatisfying relationships to show for it.
Yes it’s scary, yes it’s risky, but a safe life of no risks will leave you pretty hollow towards the end of it.