We’re an autistic couple. Both of us struggle with intense sensory stimuli, which is making oral sex difficult to give to each other.
Are their any tips on making this easier? We can just try things out and see what works
We’re an autistic couple. Both of us struggle with intense sensory stimuli, which is making oral sex difficult to give to each other.
Are their any tips on making this easier? We can just try things out and see what works
Ah I see. I wouldn’t have any recommendations for addressing smell - one shouldn’t try to change the smell or taste of a vagina, in particular.
For taste alone, if you’ve bathed before, the clitoris and penis shouldn’t taste much different than any other skin - but maybe you find mouth kissing difficult too? I’m not sure from your original post.
Texture again, shouldn’t be too different from other parts of the body, but if you find all of it overwhelming it may just not be very accessible.
Similar to learning what your partner finds enjoyable, over time you might find the pleasurable aspects override the overstimulation. But, my training isn’t specific to autism, so you could certainly correct me if you don’t find that’s true for yourself.
Good cleaning does help a lot! And we do.
Overstimulation is not something we can override though, it’s disabling. Sometimes worth the discomfort though