This is one of several reasons I eventually ditched Facebook… People would text me a bunch of bullshit drama on FB messenger while I was at work and couldn’t stop to look at it, then start sending me more messages asking why I wasn’t responding lol
I disagree. Advertising with a tracking component was the worst invention of our lifetimes. Or, if you are really old, possibly advertising in general. It provides 90% of the incentive for companies to want all your information in the first place.
Almost nobody would undo the internet, but plenty of kids would undo social media (ONLY if it meant deleting it for all their peers, self removal doesn’t count).
THIS is the crazy one for me… I’m not a big user anymore but when I was, my friends and I used it for sending bullshit that didn’t require a response. Snapchat is awful for actual conversation
Don’t worry. It’s just a normal part of life to grow, apart. I feel that in any time or era, if a friendship would crumble over petty BS, it wasn’t made of strong bonds. Still though, it can be saddening and disappointing. I’m sorry.
And it gets worse than that - my partner is an admin at a high school, and the cyber bullying, filming of fights, and the viral TikTok trends that make students just do overall dumb shit at school is insane. Not to mention the students who have IG pics posing with guns that have a vaguely threatening caption. The teachers and admins have to try and monitor all that, if they can. Luckily a lot of the students who see it first do notify someone. It’s just a whole new world. So glad I didn’t have to deal with that shit when I was in school.
That amazes me too. My original point wasn’t to shit on kids. A lot of them don’t know any better and their parents failed them by letting them go skipping into the digital crack houses that are smart phones. Myself included.
But I find it fascinating how much “social” media seems to have increased the level of… uh… Dumbass behavior and the need to record and share every damned thing you do. In fairness, it’s not just kids that do this.
Most of the time, when my kid is having a dumbass moment, her mom and I already have a pretty good idea that something is up. We are ALWAYS able to confirm it with pictures or videos because these kids seem incapable of doing stupid shit without recording it for posterity.
It always goes something like this:
Me: “Were you drinking at [random friends] house?”
Her: “No. I wouldn’t do that.”
Me: “Oh. Really?”
Plays video of my child falling down drunk
Me: “That’s so weird. [Random friend] has another friend that looks exactly like you.”
Her: “Whoops.”
Me: “Yeah. Whoops.”
Don’t get me wrong. Teenager me made plenty of stupid decisions and the few camera phones floating around during my high school years weren’t good for much. But there was no way in hell I would have let someone take pictures of me doing something that I knew I would have gotten in trouble for. Because sure as shit that photographic evidence would somehow have made it’s way to my parents.
But I find it fascinating how much “social” media seems to have increased the level of… uh… Dumbass behavior and the need to record and share every damned thing you do.
I wouldn’t necessarily say that social media has increased the level of dumbass behavior (with the exception of being dumb enough to record it). Teenagers and adults alike had plenty of dumb behavior before social media and phone cameras too. Even the desperate need to impress others isn’t really new, people have poisoned (with drugs, makeup,…), mutilated (with plastic surgery) or bankrupted (with big houses, cars, boats,…) themselves since long before social media to impress others.
So I’m in my really early 20s so i like to think i still able to relate to the youngings and hip youth but man thats just so odd to me
Tbf me and my friends have always been the weird kids so maybe its that but almost all my communication is either in a discord group chat with my irl buddies and some of their buddies, or a very small server that’s the same plus some of my online buddies.
On the note of being weird I never really got social media like instagram and stuff as I either wanna “follow” topics and following people I don’t know feels odd.
I do see the appeal tho as my sister is super into sports so following some of the big names that might move her forward makes sense to me
I had a point in here at one point but this just turned into a ramble
I either wanna “follow” topics and following people I don’t know feels odd.
Or at the very least just everything a particular person has to say about a particular topic, not about everything in their life (e.g. some author I like on the topic covered by their books, some programmer on their project,…).
One girl (kinda same age) got highly irritated over me answering 20 minutes after seeing her message (wet hands, rain), and told not to text her again after me being reluctant to answer something romantic with sore throat, food poisoning and sleep deprivation at the same time.
(TBH, I do get a bit nervous when people don’t answer me in half an hour or so, but! I’m always conscious of this simply being my own anxiety, not something they are communicating.)
I don’t think she’s much weirder than myself ; but yes, there are things people have to understand for any relationship with them to be possible, and in this case my understanding was better.
Wow, that’s nuts. I’d be a terrible kid these days if that’s the case, because I’m lucky if I check my phone for messages more than twice/day. Usually I check around lunch time, and again when I’m putting off making dinner.
Are y’all seeing the bullshit drama that’s starting on Lemmy?! There’s a post of a screenshot regarding email response times, and it somehow turned into a fight about Facebook. CRAZYYYY
This is why I told my family to create a new group chat without me. Plus, it would go off all fuckin day long, when I was in meetings at work, or trying to write code. Group chat should be limited to things that affect the entire group, like a family reunion or something.
I muted most of my phone and computer notifications. I won’t respond immediately to messages. If you really need me at this moment, call me. You have my number.
Funny thing is that Teams only lets me block all notifications and not just the message notifications. So as a result, I regularly miss a teams call because I ain’t dealing with that message notification bullshit.
That’s because Teams is a hot pile of garbage. It feels like something designed and developed as an end-year project for a high school programming class, not like enterprise level software from one of the most successful software companies in the world. But I guess most Microsoft software feels about the same, garbage.
This is one of several reasons I eventually ditched Facebook… People would text me a bunch of bullshit drama on FB messenger while I was at work and couldn’t stop to look at it, then start sending me more messages asking why I wasn’t responding lol
I would hate to be a teenager in this day and age. The amount of drama that gets started over shit like you’re talking about is insane.
As shitty as Facebook is, Snapchat takes that and dials it up to an 11.
I have it on good info from my 16 year old that it is completely unacceptable to:
Kids actually get upset over this stuff.
I’m just like, “I have a phone number. You can call or text it. If I feel like talking to you I’ll answer. If that’s a problem for you, too damn bad.”
Social media was a mistake and a phone camera is the worst invention of our lifetimes.
We destroyed society for absolute shit.
Phone cameras are actually pretty cool imo. Social media was def a mistake tho.
But for a time, a few shareholders got super rich! So totally great tradeoff, 100% worth it.
I disagree. Advertising with a tracking component was the worst invention of our lifetimes. Or, if you are really old, possibly advertising in general. It provides 90% of the incentive for companies to want all your information in the first place.
Almost nobody would undo the internet, but plenty of kids would undo social media (ONLY if it meant deleting it for all their peers, self removal doesn’t count).
Per Hard Fork podcast a couple months back
THIS is the crazy one for me… I’m not a big user anymore but when I was, my friends and I used it for sending bullshit that didn’t require a response. Snapchat is awful for actual conversation
hi, teenager here, yeah it sucks ass and i lost a lot of friendships over simple petty shit that didn’t matter
they were sensitive and i guess i grew up a bit differently
Don’t worry. It’s just a normal part of life to grow, apart. I feel that in any time or era, if a friendship would crumble over petty BS, it wasn’t made of strong bonds. Still though, it can be saddening and disappointing. I’m sorry.
And it gets worse than that - my partner is an admin at a high school, and the cyber bullying, filming of fights, and the viral TikTok trends that make students just do overall dumb shit at school is insane. Not to mention the students who have IG pics posing with guns that have a vaguely threatening caption. The teachers and admins have to try and monitor all that, if they can. Luckily a lot of the students who see it first do notify someone. It’s just a whole new world. So glad I didn’t have to deal with that shit when I was in school.
That amazes me too. My original point wasn’t to shit on kids. A lot of them don’t know any better and their parents failed them by letting them go skipping into the digital crack houses that are smart phones. Myself included.
But I find it fascinating how much “social” media seems to have increased the level of… uh… Dumbass behavior and the need to record and share every damned thing you do. In fairness, it’s not just kids that do this.
Most of the time, when my kid is having a dumbass moment, her mom and I already have a pretty good idea that something is up. We are ALWAYS able to confirm it with pictures or videos because these kids seem incapable of doing stupid shit without recording it for posterity.
It always goes something like this:
Me: “Were you drinking at [random friends] house?”
Her: “No. I wouldn’t do that.”
Me: “Oh. Really?” Plays video of my child falling down drunk
Me: “That’s so weird. [Random friend] has another friend that looks exactly like you.”
Her: “Whoops.”
Me: “Yeah. Whoops.”
Don’t get me wrong. Teenager me made plenty of stupid decisions and the few camera phones floating around during my high school years weren’t good for much. But there was no way in hell I would have let someone take pictures of me doing something that I knew I would have gotten in trouble for. Because sure as shit that photographic evidence would somehow have made it’s way to my parents.
I wouldn’t necessarily say that social media has increased the level of dumbass behavior (with the exception of being dumb enough to record it). Teenagers and adults alike had plenty of dumb behavior before social media and phone cameras too. Even the desperate need to impress others isn’t really new, people have poisoned (with drugs, makeup,…), mutilated (with plastic surgery) or bankrupted (with big houses, cars, boats,…) themselves since long before social media to impress others.
So I’m in my really early 20s so i like to think i still able to relate to the youngings and hip youth but man thats just so odd to me
Tbf me and my friends have always been the weird kids so maybe its that but almost all my communication is either in a discord group chat with my irl buddies and some of their buddies, or a very small server that’s the same plus some of my online buddies.
On the note of being weird I never really got social media like instagram and stuff as I either wanna “follow” topics and following people I don’t know feels odd.
I do see the appeal tho as my sister is super into sports so following some of the big names that might move her forward makes sense to me
I had a point in here at one point but this just turned into a ramble
Or at the very least just everything a particular person has to say about a particular topic, not about everything in their life (e.g. some author I like on the topic covered by their books, some programmer on their project,…).
Ah that makes sense
I’m a 28 years old asocial individual.
One girl (kinda same age) got highly irritated over me answering 20 minutes after seeing her message (wet hands, rain), and told not to text her again after me being reluctant to answer something romantic with sore throat, food poisoning and sleep deprivation at the same time.
(TBH, I do get a bit nervous when people don’t answer me in half an hour or so, but! I’m always conscious of this simply being my own anxiety, not something they are communicating.)
You, my friend, dodged a bullet with that one.
I don’t think she’s much weirder than myself ; but yes, there are things people have to understand for any relationship with them to be possible, and in this case my understanding was better.
Wow, that’s nuts. I’d be a terrible kid these days if that’s the case, because I’m lucky if I check my phone for messages more than twice/day. Usually I check around lunch time, and again when I’m putting off making dinner.
Sorry you posted this 13 minutes ago, and I just responded!
But, there was this person on the internet who was very wrong (not you), and they weren’t responding, and it was pissing me off, big time!!!
Sorry again.
Are y’all seeing the bullshit drama that’s starting on Lemmy?! There’s a post of a screenshot regarding email response times, and it somehow turned into a fight about Facebook. CRAZYYYY
What it feels like: https://youtu.be/JR8Q-afz170
This is why I told my family to create a new group chat without me. Plus, it would go off all fuckin day long, when I was in meetings at work, or trying to write code. Group chat should be limited to things that affect the entire group, like a family reunion or something.
I muted most of my phone and computer notifications. I won’t respond immediately to messages. If you really need me at this moment, call me. You have my number.
Funny thing is that Teams only lets me block all notifications and not just the message notifications. So as a result, I regularly miss a teams call because I ain’t dealing with that message notification bullshit.
That’s because Teams is a hot pile of garbage. It feels like something designed and developed as an end-year project for a high school programming class, not like enterprise level software from one of the most successful software companies in the world. But I guess most Microsoft software feels about the same, garbage.
Hey, hey, don’t insult high schoolers like that. Unlike Microsoft they would actually put some thought into a project like that.
Yeah, it’s unbelievable how bad Teams is. It works for the most part, but it’s just not quite there for an actually decent piece of software.