• @jebuz
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          1718 days ago

          I don’t know, no one gets called a fag and thinks on what they did. It’s just baseless aggression, rather than communicating anything of value.

          If you have strong opinions, voice them like a man. Not like a beast growling.

          • discusseded
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            -718 days ago

            Always a good course to take. I’m only saying that the right words at the right time can make a difference. We shouldn’t fear words with a bad history if they have a useful place in the present.

            • @jebuz
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              418 days ago

              They aren’t feared, and they aren’t useful? Queer for example is still useful since it was embraced and used to define ambiguous or questioning folks. Fag is only useful if you’re asking me for a cig or you wanna make some effigies.

          • @jebuz
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            -718 days ago

            No one gets to reclaim it. You’re inciting the divisiveness, it should just not be used if it has to be censored depending on who you are. It’s archaic.

            Be better.

            • Todd Bonzalez
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              Gay people get to reclaim that word from people who want to use it as a pejorative.

              • @jebuz
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                -118 days ago

                Sure, but fag isn’t one. Queer at least has an actual use case scenario compared to fag. Unless you’re making an effigy or smoking in certain regions. The meaning the word has no intrinsic reason to be gated if you want it to be a real word.

                • KillingTimeItself
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                  017 days ago

                  and what if my use case is self denigrating myself for the purposes of humorous shitposting. Seems perfectly appropriate in this use case as far as i can tell.

                  • @jebuz
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                    216 days ago

                    If that’s how you get off, but not encouraged in a public space. I do it all the time. I’m not saying censor yourself around folks over this one word.

                    I’m saying compared to it’s history and how it can be used, it doesn’t have much space for common talk. Queer is able to be a concept that is useful to bridge slurs. It’s able to converted into something. Fag however just had a hateful history in the internet because America.

                    I’m talking about it completely objectively.

                    LGBTx communities with young folks for example are those who don’t know the value and the difficulty. It’s taken for granted. The word just shouldn’t be promoted in positive light openly, but talked about it’s history openly of talked about with those you’d like to use.

                    Dude why am I explaining manners and not being a bad impression on kids in private spaces/platforms.

            • KillingTimeItself
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              -117 days ago

              bro who cares words are words, say whatever the fuck you want where the fuck you want as long as you aren’t directly offending anyone. Keeping these words behind a pedestal does nothing but hurt everyone.

              i got into an argument semi recently over whether “pansy” was a homophobic slur, i don’t think anybody even knows that is was used as one today lmao.

              • @jebuz
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                116 days ago

                I never said don’t say it.

                I’m just saying, in public spaces or sites where kids can be. I try not to say those words? They’re impressionable and it’s just not constructive, sure they have their place in jests or lustful talk.

                I consider it manners.

                • KillingTimeItself
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                  i mean sure, but this is lemmy, not a fucking cod lobby, how many children do you think are on lemmy? There’s shit tons of porn here.

                  There’s a time and place for everything, including behavior and language, an individual should be able to gauge whether they use certain words in certain places.

                  sure it’s manners, but sometimes breaking manners to make a point is more important.

                  • @jebuz
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                    116 days ago

                    I didn’t say lemmy, I fully agree about it all. However I am talking about in general.

        • Todd Bonzalez
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          718 days ago

          For people who have every opportunity to behave and act with decency, but do not or will not: they are fags.

          So you want to reclaim “removed” from the gay community, and turn it back into a hate slur? Get fucked, homophobe.

          • KillingTimeItself
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            117 days ago

            that would admittedly be pretty based though, what a fucking shitpost that would be.

        • cum
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          518 days ago

          We grew out of those words for a reason. There’s a million other ways you can describe those people. I know you’re not attempting to be homophobic, but just for the sake of language, it’s crude and lazy to just use that in place of ways you could much more creatively insult somebody. That word doesn’t need to be reclaimed, and really has no value worth bringing back.

        • @Maggoty
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          218 days ago

          That is not what those words mean and you don’t get to personally decide they mean something else. We have words for those definitions already; Idiot and Asshole.