• 2ugly2live
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    2 months ago

    I think it’s speaking about women who “allow” bad behavior.

    Like, maybe the man’s mom used to do all his chores for him without asking, so he comes to expect it. His wife, who is not his mother, says he has to do his own laundry and maybe puts their foot down about the whole “weaponized incompetence” some men use. The man is surprised, because he didn’t expect his wife to be “less forgiving” than this mother, who just gave us and did it for him.

    For daughters, sometimes daughters (or just children in general) , as an outside observer to the relationship, can tell that one parent is shit (in this case, the father). While the wife may go, “He didn’t meant it, he’s just tired,” the daughter may not be “as forgiving” and just say he is abusive.

    However, I don’t think either of these are gender specific. Just depnsends on the dynamic at play.

    • @JimmyMcGill
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      422 months ago

      Yes. I mean I’m a man and I had no trouble understanding the post but for some reason it is very hard for some people

        • @somethingsnappy
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          32 months ago

          You’re on the internet talking about a thread from xitter. Congrats for living in a cave with only good role models, but I think you should be able to see over the fence a little.

          • atro_city
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            52 months ago

            That made no sense whatsoever. You sound exactly like somebody from xitter.

            • @nomous
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              42 months ago

              You really couldn’t figure out what they meant or are you being snarky?

              • @Warl0k3
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                2 months ago

                IDK about ‘snarky’ but I’ve got $5 on ‘feigning incomprehension’

            • @somethingsnappy
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              02 months ago

              Not go out and find them, but be able to understand that it’s pretty common.

    • @Hackerman_uwu
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      02 months ago

      Or, you know, kids haven’t got the same grasp of adult life that grown ups do.

      I have a 23 year old daughter. She has a job, an education, is currently travelling the world and she’s still really very immature in many ways. I know there be will be people that age right now reading this and hating it and you know you’re really still very far away from really getting this but there is SO much in life that we have to learn to let go. SO many failures of our own and of others that we need to find a way to live with. It took me a long, long time to really get to the point where I was able to forgive the world for being a place where certain bad things had happened. That’s the thing that finally allowed me to keep looking for goodness, to struggle for hope instead of being angry with reality. You look deep into any maladjustment be it drug addiction, eating disorders, rage, pretty much any negative compulsion - deep down in there it’s this. It’s this inability to forgive the world for being a place where bad things can happen. Which is clearly a child-like response to not getting our way. Only now “getting our way”, like it’s not that you were refused a treat but rather you’re waching the bigger part of humanity suffer and realising you’re near powerless to do anything about it. Two things can be true. The world can be a bad place sometimes but it can also be good. If you can’t forgive it for its failings you’ll struggle to see the good side.

      • 2ugly2live
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        12 months ago

        That’s why I said “sometimes” and not, “every child, everywhere, all the time.”

        Your 23 year old may be really immature still, some kids are not. Depends on the kiddo. However, I don’t think forgiving abusive parents is a lesson that should be taught. You can hold someone accountable without hating the rest of the world. I can not forgive an abusive parent and still see the good side of things without being a doormat.