Like there are some people who think that we’re not valid if we don’t. Don’t people know how expensive and painful it is. Plus some of us just like what we got ya know. I’m proud to be a trans girl who still has the bits. Why is this so hard for people to understand? Also some people seem to think it’s much more common than it actually is.
I agree. There are of course a lot more ways that one can SA someone else than simply PIV. But again, we’re dealing with a lot of deep cultural memory here. Up until a few decades ago, in most areas only PIV intercourse even counted as rape. Legally in many countries, it isn’t even possible for a woman to commit rape against another woman. A lot of historical anti-rape law wasn’t even really about sexual assault. It was a more patriarchal thing. When you raped a woman you took the most valuable thing she had - her virginity. It was almost more of a property crime than a violation of personhood and bodily autonomy. We’ve mostly left these extremely outdated legal traditions behind, but a lot of the cultural memory persists. There are still plenty of people out there who don’t even consider cis lesbian sex to BE sex. There’s a lot of backwards beliefs out there.
And yeah, asking people with such archaic beliefs about sex to understand the subtleties of anatomy changes on HRT? Well good luck with that! Obviously I know from experience things change a ton, but most cis people don’t even know what trans HRT is. Most just assume everything trans people do is from surgeries of various sorts. If you polled random cis people about the effects of trans HRT on genitalia, less than 5 percent would probably be able to accurately answer questions on it. If cis people do have any exposure to trans bits, it’s mostly through trans porn. And the actresses that do that all usually have to go off HRT for a period to do those shots. Most cis people are just hopelessly ignorant about all things trans.