Your first paragraph makes a lot of sense to me.

The second paragraph I have a very different opinion on, because there’s a difference between patterns of abuse and having to deal with a shitty situation a few times. And although there’s people who don’t take any shit and will fit you for small inconveniences, there’s also a lot of people who have learned to endure almost every situation for way too long.

My mom has been working overtime for years and I’m scared she’ll get overwhelmed eventually. Every one of our band mates got bullied in school and just endured it. A school friend told me he was the black sheep in an Asian family and he just had accept it. I’m sure he’s way past his limit but he’ll still try with them. A friend of mine has a dad with narcissistic tendencies and a mom with major health issues and an aunt who almost killed her multiple times intentionally already. I tend to not speak up because sometimes I get it wrong and it fucks me up in major ways.

As you can see I know a lot of people who wait way too long until they change things, and if they spike up a bit more, they could be holding a successful job and maybe even keep their sanity. Goes to show that everyone is different and every social dynamic is unique.