Isn’t this situation how the term incel was coined? Like, it was a lesbian who could not get a girlfriend, and eventually started saying she was involuntarily celibate, which got shortened to incel?
It’s funny - the bi women I know have a much better understanding of how difficult it is to date women than the straight women do. “But why don’t you just do online dating? I had a lot of success meeting men through online dating!”
(Before anyone says anything: yeah, straight women have their own problems.)
What bothers me, is that this creates this idea for some men that they can “change” or convince lesbians. If you’re like “Oh I’m a lesbian, but I have a boyfriend.” You’re going to make some men think they just have to ask enough and that lesbians just “need a good d” to turn straight again.
Why lesbian over bi, if I may ask? Do you find yourself moving between the two labels when it’s convenient or would be awkward to say? Like, if you meet his family-- do you tell them you’re actually a lesbian?
No, I totally get that, and I hate that I “prove” that idea in any form, because it’s horseshit. I hear that shit all the time and frankly, it’s disgusting.
I identify more with lesbian, because quite frankly I’m not physically attracted to guys like…at all. I just happen to really be attached to this one guy in particular. Outside of him, I’ve never had a guy as a romantic partner, and should we break up at some point, I don’t see myself doing it again.
Regarding his family, I probably wouldn’t say anything at all about my sexuality haha
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I gave up and found a boyfriend. I’m not even kidding. I’m like…90% lesbian though.
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Isn’t this situation how the term incel was coined? Like, it was a lesbian who could not get a girlfriend, and eventually started saying she was involuntarily celibate, which got shortened to incel?
Yep https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incel
Fair, but I really don’t consider myself bi. I like women and I like my boyfriend haha.
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It’s funny - the bi women I know have a much better understanding of how difficult it is to date women than the straight women do. “But why don’t you just do online dating? I had a lot of success meeting men through online dating!”
(Before anyone says anything: yeah, straight women have their own problems.)
You’re bi. Just own it.
But I don’t wanna
Lesbians aren’t toys to play with when you’re bored.
I’m a lesbian. I’ve had times where I’m hella single and don’t go to dudes because I’m bored or lonely. If I did, I would consider myself pan/bi.
You’re bi, just say you’re bi. You can’t be a certain percentage of something like that.
Nah, I think I’ll identify how I please.
I’m fully aware of this, having been the one toyed with before.
What bothers me, is that this creates this idea for some men that they can “change” or convince lesbians. If you’re like “Oh I’m a lesbian, but I have a boyfriend.” You’re going to make some men think they just have to ask enough and that lesbians just “need a good d” to turn straight again.
Why lesbian over bi, if I may ask? Do you find yourself moving between the two labels when it’s convenient or would be awkward to say? Like, if you meet his family-- do you tell them you’re actually a lesbian?
No, I totally get that, and I hate that I “prove” that idea in any form, because it’s horseshit. I hear that shit all the time and frankly, it’s disgusting.
I identify more with lesbian, because quite frankly I’m not physically attracted to guys like…at all. I just happen to really be attached to this one guy in particular. Outside of him, I’ve never had a guy as a romantic partner, and should we break up at some point, I don’t see myself doing it again.
Regarding his family, I probably wouldn’t say anything at all about my sexuality haha