You can, and likely will, disagree but healthy people shouldn’t escalate into anything resembling an argument.
Isn’t an argument what you are doing when going back and forth expressing any sort of disagreement? I realize that’s not something everyone enjoys doing but personally I don’t feel like I can get to know someone very well if I don’t have opportunities to argue with them. Though I see what you mean if it’s the sort of argument where you’re getting upset with each other or it’s a dispute about how your lives fit together like whose turn it is to do the dishes etc.
I consider an “argument” when voices get raised and people get heated. Big or small is difference of how long people are upset and how loud participants get. I will concede I was unwittingly applying a definition other people may not share.
Note: it it gets physical, that escalates from “argument” to “fight”.
Edit: to address your comment more directly. No, if people are being civil and tones are reasonable, a disagreement doesn’t have to be an argument. It’s just another discussion. Perhaps a debate. But an “argument” in my mind is oppositional.
Isn’t an argument what you are doing when going back and forth expressing any sort of disagreement? I realize that’s not something everyone enjoys doing but personally I don’t feel like I can get to know someone very well if I don’t have opportunities to argue with them. Though I see what you mean if it’s the sort of argument where you’re getting upset with each other or it’s a dispute about how your lives fit together like whose turn it is to do the dishes etc.
Hmm, that’s given me pause, to reconsider.
I consider an “argument” when voices get raised and people get heated. Big or small is difference of how long people are upset and how loud participants get. I will concede I was unwittingly applying a definition other people may not share.
Note: it it gets physical, that escalates from “argument” to “fight”.
Edit: to address your comment more directly. No, if people are being civil and tones are reasonable, a disagreement doesn’t have to be an argument. It’s just another discussion. Perhaps a debate. But an “argument” in my mind is oppositional.