I got really good at telling little lies because my parents were the type of shitheads to interrogate and blame me for literally any problem. they would refuse to believe me when I told the truth so I found it more convenient to tell them what I thought they’d more likely believe. I think this is a good skill to have but it has fucked me over before because I used to default to doing that with any authority figure.
This. Except I’m not limited to authority figures and that’s sometimes very hard to handle. Like if a friend wants to invite me on monday but I already have something planned with another friend that same day I sometimes feel like giving the real reason would make them jealous.
Yes, I know I shouldn’t do this, and I’m working on it, but it’s not easy. It’s especially hard when the real reason is something like “spending time with you in particular is very stressful for me and I can’t handle it”.
I got really good at telling little lies because my parents were the type of shitheads to interrogate and blame me for literally any problem. they would refuse to believe me when I told the truth so I found it more convenient to tell them what I thought they’d more likely believe. I think this is a good skill to have but it has fucked me over before because I used to default to doing that with any authority figure.
This. Except I’m not limited to authority figures and that’s sometimes very hard to handle. Like if a friend wants to invite me on monday but I already have something planned with another friend that same day I sometimes feel like giving the real reason would make them jealous. Yes, I know I shouldn’t do this, and I’m working on it, but it’s not easy. It’s especially hard when the real reason is something like “spending time with you in particular is very stressful for me and I can’t handle it”.