I’m fundamentally attracted to women and turned off by men. It’s the simplest way to describe my sexual orientation. The fact that I’m not attracted to all women doesn’t change that.
Been sexually active, with many partners, for almost 40-years and this lines up with my experiences. The vast majority of us are solidly heterosexual, a small percentage homosexual and a tiny percentage bisexual or anything else.
Lemmy’s general take is that we’re all on a mushy spectrum. Well, yeah, the spectrum certainly exists, but almost all of us fall hard to one side or the other.
My theory is this, it’s because of the younger demographics around here and society’s new openness. I’m exactly as you, but when I was younger, and had sexuality been as openly discussed as now, there were years when I might have identified as having a touch of homosexuality or even trans in me.
Grew up playing with the girls because I wasn’t much into “boy” stuff. Never been worried that I’d be judged for wearing feminine clothes, and to this day I wear women’s outwear because it’s cut for my skinny ass. Had a few homosexual fantasies in my teens, but I would never have been turned on, even a little, in a real life situation. LOL, said many times, “I should have been born a woman.” But I now understand, having feminine traits and likes in no way speaks to my sexuality.
Add to all that the fact that teens are casting about trying to learn about themselves. Identifying as a member of the LGBT group says, “I’m different! I’m not like you haters!” I would have done it, even though in retrospect it wasn’t remotely true. Support them, please, but odds are strongly against being an actual member.
Another interesting experience, and I have no idea what this says about me: My gaydar is, and always has been, broken. Y’all would laugh at how clueless I can be. Guess I simply never cared about other’s sexuality?
Ironically, I expect this post to get blasted with misunderstandings from the very people screaming that we need to better understand one another.
I’m attracted to femininity, first and foremost. Femininity is a requirement, and it’s not flexible. But then there are other more flexible preferences about specific appearance or personality details I might like in a woman.
I’m fundamentally attracted to women and turned off by men. It’s the simplest way to describe my sexual orientation. The fact that I’m not attracted to all women doesn’t change that.
Been sexually active, with many partners, for almost 40-years and this lines up with my experiences. The vast majority of us are solidly heterosexual, a small percentage homosexual and a tiny percentage bisexual or anything else.
Lemmy’s general take is that we’re all on a mushy spectrum. Well, yeah, the spectrum certainly exists, but almost all of us fall hard to one side or the other.
My theory is this, it’s because of the younger demographics around here and society’s new openness. I’m exactly as you, but when I was younger, and had sexuality been as openly discussed as now, there were years when I might have identified as having a touch of homosexuality or even trans in me.
Grew up playing with the girls because I wasn’t much into “boy” stuff. Never been worried that I’d be judged for wearing feminine clothes, and to this day I wear women’s outwear because it’s cut for my skinny ass. Had a few homosexual fantasies in my teens, but I would never have been turned on, even a little, in a real life situation. LOL, said many times, “I should have been born a woman.” But I now understand, having feminine traits and likes in no way speaks to my sexuality.
Add to all that the fact that teens are casting about trying to learn about themselves. Identifying as a member of the LGBT group says, “I’m different! I’m not like you haters!” I would have done it, even though in retrospect it wasn’t remotely true. Support them, please, but odds are strongly against being an actual member.
Another interesting experience, and I have no idea what this says about me: My gaydar is, and always has been, broken. Y’all would laugh at how clueless I can be. Guess I simply never cared about other’s sexuality?
Ironically, I expect this post to get blasted with misunderstandings from the very people screaming that we need to better understand one another.
Refreshingly, that doesn’t seem to have happened yet.
I was sorta expecting comments that I’m closeted and ignorant of my own sexuality. Very happy not to be catching that!
That doesn’t resolve the question though. What does it mean to be “fundamentally attracted to women” if you’re not actually attracted to most women?
I’m attracted to femininity, first and foremost. Femininity is a requirement, and it’s not flexible. But then there are other more flexible preferences about specific appearance or personality details I might like in a woman.