I just got back from two days at a giant conference. Every year I go, and my dream is to join in the community that it is a part of, and every year I come back, having talked to no one at all.
I can plan things to say, and then just shut down when the opportunity comes. I can also plan too far and figure that I won’t have anything more to say after the initial contact, so why bother?
I’ve read various books on social anxiety and the old “How to win friends”, but I just don’t feel like they’re helpful. Does anyone know of any resources that take autism and selective mutism into consideration?
Whenever I go out to socialize, I remind myself of this:
“When it’s time to fly, don’t deny.”
I’ve found that an early-but-graceful exit has a better effect. Whenever I’ve stuck around too long, my anxiety & what-not spreads around, and I’m now tainting their experience. Plus, it makes my recovery much more extenuated & difficult.
I gotta remember this