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    21 month ago

    Well the hyperfocus does as it wills… but sometimes you can get a hyperfocus in something you can improve on! Most of us do that, actually. In all my life, and I’m almost 40, I’ve only had one hyperfocus that I absolutely can’t do. I still try every so often.

    And having a lot of projects going at once is about the only way we can focus. I only ever did well in school in classes where my teachers let me either read a book or play with aying cards while they taught. Many of us can only multitask.

    • @Valmond
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      11 month ago

      Wow thank you. I always thought ADHD was about people having problems focusing by not being able to do so, and other problems like sitting still, that I don’t really feel I have.

      Now, I can focus, incredibly well, I guess it’s called hyperfocus :-) Now it has a name, thanks!

      Also being called out because I doodle during meetings (among other things) and the idea that some people just can’t not do several things at the same time, well that hit home 100%.

      I think I need to think about this a bit, it feels like I finally found out what’s up with me, any advice greatly appreciated.

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        21 month ago

        If it helps, when I was a kid, the conventional wisdom was “girls don’t get ADHD.” Which is why I didn’t get diagnosed until I was about 36.

        Nowadays, we know better. And we can use that knowledge to do better! Which is why I’m finally in college.

        • @Valmond
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          21 month ago

          That’s so shitty, I hope the world can one day be a better place. It feels like the bar is really low.

          In my family nothing was tolerated if it didn’t make mom feel better like right now. So I didn’t have any time to even think about things before I was 18. It’s been a while but people like you have done a huge difference in my life, I’m trying to be helpful person too when I can, one thing here one thing there and together we move forward.

          Good going for taking up college! It should be a breeze, but good luck and I hope it all goes well!