• @freeze
    link
    05 hours ago

    People who are so concerned about that possibility can just require their prospective spouse to sign a prenup with conditions like that on alimony, as a condition of getting married.

    • @andrewta
      link
      12 hours ago

      There are a number of states where the prenup is all but worthless.

    • @[email protected]
      link
      fedilink
      English
      64 hours ago

      Yup, that’s a great way to start a marriage. “I love you with all my heart and want to be with you forever. Also, I don’t trust you, so let’s get a prenup.”

      The law needs to protect people by default. It’s just impractical not to. You have to keep in mind that humans are not perfect rational agents.

      • @freeze
        link
        1
        edit-2
        4 hours ago

        If someone has this strong of a concern about potentially having to pay alimony in the future and their partner is this bothered by practical attempts to alleviate that fear by preventing an issue, then maybe they’re just not right for each other and shouldn’t get married.

        Alimony laws also vary enormously by jurisdiction, and people could also just e.g. not marry someone who doesn’t work or isn’t planning to. Or only marry someone who gets paid close enough to the same amount that alimony likely wouldn’t come into play regardless.

          • @freeze
            link
            -14 hours ago

            I think I have a realistic view. Usually terminally online men don’t understand how alimony even works or how rare it is in the first place. I suppose they just get off on these kinds of justice porn theoretical outrage scenarios.