Just discovered Lemmy while browsing for Reddit alternatives, so let’s break the ice with this first post.

  • @jadepagodaOP
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    418 hours ago

    Nature and solitude + my husband except for that one time when he was the cause (he had an affair). Music, good food, company of loved ones, books, a good night’s sleep… the simply joys.

    • @dhcmrlchtdj__
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      238 hours ago

      I’m interested to hear more about how you worked through your husbands affair, if you’re open to talking about it

      • @jadepagodaOP
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        598 hours ago

        Sure. I found out about it from some mutual friends. Honestly my first reaction was, what a dumbass… if you’re going to cheat at least do it smartly and properly so that no soul knows about it. Funnily enough at first I was more disappointed in him for being stupid, I believed he was an intelligent man. I wanted to know every detail and he came clean about everything. Cut off all contact with that woman and put in the work to rebuild trust… a bit of a surveillance period. Either way, I knew I would never leave him just over a one time stray away; but of course he couldn’t know this. I appreciated he didn’t lie when confronted about it or try to victimize himself, justify it, make excuses, etc. He was very frank.