People here keep saying folks are more chill on the West Coast, but I’ve lived in NYC for two years and around California for 8 (mostly the bay area), and this hasn’t been my experience at all. If anything, I’ve noticed the opposite of the stereotype. The California folks tend to be very un-“chill” when I deviate from some social norm by accident, while New Yorkers are generally pretty accepting. I also find when I ask folks out west to be direct because I really need that they way my mind works, they still often don’t, but New Yorkers will. I’m not sure what others mean when they say the West Coast is more chill since it was so much harder for me to get by there-- maybe they’re talking about something else.
I don’t know if NY’ers are more accepting, but they certainly have more DGAF or are hardened against non-normal things because of exposure to a lot of different things as part of metro life.
I do find people out west to appear to brush off non-normal behavior but start talking about the faux pas as soon as the perpetrator is out of earshot and get judgy. NY’ers might make eye contact, shrug, and/or have a short laugh, then move on.
CA “chill” is just the result of that brush off. Things are NBD because of that appearance, nobody really invests anything in interaction.
People here keep saying folks are more chill on the West Coast, but I’ve lived in NYC for two years and around California for 8 (mostly the bay area), and this hasn’t been my experience at all. If anything, I’ve noticed the opposite of the stereotype. The California folks tend to be very un-“chill” when I deviate from some social norm by accident, while New Yorkers are generally pretty accepting. I also find when I ask folks out west to be direct because I really need that they way my mind works, they still often don’t, but New Yorkers will. I’m not sure what others mean when they say the West Coast is more chill since it was so much harder for me to get by there-- maybe they’re talking about something else.
I don’t know if NY’ers are more accepting, but they certainly have more DGAF or are hardened against non-normal things because of exposure to a lot of different things as part of metro life.
I do find people out west to appear to brush off non-normal behavior but start talking about the faux pas as soon as the perpetrator is out of earshot and get judgy. NY’ers might make eye contact, shrug, and/or have a short laugh, then move on.
CA “chill” is just the result of that brush off. Things are NBD because of that appearance, nobody really invests anything in interaction.