(Early 20s bi m)

This isnt a question on finding someone who’s interested, more on how to approach asking for things like sexting or even just discussing sexual topics without it coming across like thats the only thing Im interested in .

How do I ease into that kind of discussion in a way that would let me back off gracefully if I get the sense that the person I’m talking to isnt interested in that at the moment? What bridge topics could I use that are more innocuous than just dropping a “hey what are your opinions about buttfucking?” Into the conversation like a grenade.

I’d like to be able to use a lighter touch so if it seems like somebody isnt interested at the moment I could circle back when they might be more in the mood for that, or at least not ruin the non-sexual things I like about the relationship if it seems like they’re not interested at all.

I’m also fairly vanilla in terms of sexual interests, advice specific to kink would be appreciated since I’m kink-curious but isnt exactly what I’m looking for.

  • @MaalusEnglish
    5•3 days ago

    Flirt and it will come naturally if they respond well. I like to mention Mojo Upgrade when I get positive results from flirting. It’s interesting enough to hook in a person and the results can then be discussed further, leading to more flirting. It’s also innocent enough to completely ignore doing it. I got multiple people to do the test with me by just mentioning how it works. At the end of the day, people are curious beings.

    Being smooth works too. I had a best friend mention that she would love a magic counter floating next to dudes that shows their dick size. So I hit her with “wanna know what mine would say?” and got a positive response.

    Be the opposite of horny, don’t be a creep, don’t be desperate. People like talking about sexual stuff too, but they need to feel comfortable. Getting consent works well too, as does dropping small hints. One of my successful moves is “can I ask you a question, and if you don’t want to answer we forget I ever asked?” and going for something that is very obviously sexual, but not extreme.